My Take on Making Good Friends

I’m not one to make a lot of casual friends. I crave emotional and spiritual bonding with the people I associate with. I appreciate genuineness. I find it comforting to have a few friends with whom I can talk about everything with, rather than a dozen friends who talk to me once a month. Any outsider reading this would think I have healthy social standards but you’d be surprised how little people actually qualify to meet these standards.

I’ve realized that a lot of the friends I used to have weren’t quite compatible with me. They didn’t crave deep conversations about the injustice and social stigmas in society at 2 AM. Instead, they liked talking about themselves and what they did throughout the day. To be honest, I do envy their ability to engage in surface-level conversation. It’s pretty hard for me to not overthink. But that also happens to be the one thing I take pride in about myself. I might not be the most easy going person to talk to, or the most academically achieving but I am insightful.

I like giving people the benefit of the doubt and understanding why people do the things they do. I like the idea of making everyone around me become at peace with themselves and with the people around them. To me, making good relationships isn’t to get rid of my isolation or loneliness. It is a practice of inner peace and mental development. I make friends to learn and improve on myself.

To me, an ideal human relationship is when there is respect for each other and for themselves, openness to differences, empathy and most importantly, unconditional love. I might not have a hundred friends, but I like to believe that the two best friends that I have are the most beautiful friends I could ever ask for.